Poor Terry Matalas. It’s clear from numerous post-season interviews that, for as elaborate as S3 became by the end (rebuilding the Enterprise-D! Bringing back Ro and Tuvok! Changelings and Borg and Lore!), his original vision was yet more elaborate. Apparently he originally planned to have Janeway and Kim also appear, and to show Ro still alive in the brig with Tuvok at the end of the season. The man clearly was dreaming big.
Given that, it seems slightly implausible that he would omit material purely out of carelessness. And the absence of Alexander seems like a pretty large omission – especially in a season that was so focused on the parent-child relationship and the idea of “the next generation”. Yes, there are all these memes about Worf forgetting Alexander, but that doesn’t strike me as the kind of fan service Matalas was going for.
From a storytelling perspective, omitting Alexander seems pretty similar to why Odo was mentioned adoringly as “a man of honor” but not named: there was already a lot of backstory and reference being woven into the story, and throwing out a random name – or a random concept like, “Oh yeah, Worf has an estranged son” – would create too much to unpack.
Likewise, it seems like they wanted Worf to have a paternal presence with Raffi, so omitting Alexander simplified that story.
But still: in a season that was all about parents and their children, it seems significant that they couldn’t find any way to reference him.
Unless…
Worf has a memorable scene with Raffi where he tells her, “Don’t presume to know what I have sacrificed” (or something to that effect). Surprisingly, that line is never followed up on… explicitly.
But I suggest that that is where we learn of Alexander’s fate: Worf has lost his son. Whether to death or desertion or deep undercover work, who can say? But we have an open question – where is Alexander? – and we have a vague statement that is never otherwise explained – that Worf has sacrificed a great deal – and given how much the rest of the season ties itself together, I suspect this was meant to be a subtle nod to explain away Alexander’s absence.
Why not make it explicit? Why doesn’t Worf tell anyone about Alexander? I argue it’s because they wanted to save the “grieving parent” story for Riker + Troi, especially Riker. Explicitly portraying both Riker and Worf as grieving fathers would create an elephant in the room too big to ignore, and would’ve taken up much more space in the story.
So, instead, poor Alexander is consigned to a mysterious comment from his father – perhaps fodder for some future tie-in novel, or perhaps someone we might meet in Star Trek: Legacy.
Are there other theories as to where Alexander might be, or why the writers did not mention him?
That Worf is a bad father to Alexander is canon; I wish that Jadzia had lived and he could have had a second chance at fatherhood with her. I think his episode with Yoshi on DS9 showed that if he’d had a chance he could have become a good father.
The situation with Alexander was particularly challenging though. Kehylar hid Alexander from him until he was a young boy; she raised him to essentially hate/fear everything that Word venerated; then she was killed and Worf without more than a few days’ notice suddenly had an angry, hurt, and resentful son. His solution of sending Alexander to live with his parents was obviously a huge mistake because it exacerbated Alexander’s abandonment issues which stuck with him the rest of his life, and Worf wasn’t emotionally mature enough to either recognize or deal with it properly.
Anyway, I guess that’s a long way of saying that I understand Worf and Alexander’s relationship even though it’s sad and kind of painful. But I do think that Worf had it in him to be a good father eventually with the right partner. His bad luck with the women in his life certainly didn’t help though.